Better to give

VOLUNTEERING: IT TRULY IS BETTER TO GIVE During a fundraiser at my parish last year, a group of volunteers spent an entire day rolling 2,000 lumpias (Filipino eggrolls). If you’ve ever had lumpia, then you know that it is a hit at parties and eating one roll only takes about 10 seconds. If you’ve ever madelumpia, then you…

Steps to Peace

THREE STEPS TO ACHIEVE PEACE IN YOUR LIFE Last month we heard a lot about “peace on earth.” Now of course most of us have moved on to our hectic, non-peaceful lives. I’ll admit, “peace on earth” is not a concept that meant much to me when I was young; only recently have I recognized…

Grief, Trauma, and Recovery

MISCARRIAGE AND STILLBIRTHS: GRIEF, TRAUMA, AND RECOVERY During holidays and other celebrations, there are many words that come to mind: joy, family, and a happy heart. But for those who have experienced a miscarriage or stillborn birth, these times represent something else: Grief, trauma, and the infamous, “There’s no heartbeat. I’m sorry.” While grief should…

Don’t Ignore Emotions

CHRISTIANS: DON’T IGNORE YOUR EMOTIONS The classical Christian understanding of the human person envisions us bridging two vastly different worlds. We are a body-soul unity, such that “I” am not my soul, nor am “I” my body, but we are, instead, incarnated souls as well as ensouled bodies. This teaching is one of the fundamental…

Five Steps

5 STEPS TO MAKING BETTER DECISIONS Why doesn’t anybody like me?Why do all my relationships end so badly?Why are all my bosses such jerks? Question after question after question—why? There’s a saying that the unexamined life is not worth living…and of course, as a therapist I’m hard pressed not to agree.  Although the not worth…